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Wild & free or solid & predictable: what flavour are you?

Wild & free or solid & predictable: what flavour are you?

Are you a creature of habit? Or someone that needs constant change? It doesn’t really matter which camp you fall into as long as you know which makes you feel most content. I’m both. I eat the same thing for breakfast and lunch pretty much every single day. I go to the same yoga class with the same teacher twice a week (ideally Bikram) and I cycle the kids to school and back twice a day in our dutch cargo…

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Are you a destination addict?

Are you a destination addict?

Destination addiction. It’s a tricky one. Are you also a sufferer? I am. Sometimes. (She says sheepishly). Well, aren’t we all a little? Because isn’t it just so much easier to kid yourself that if only ‘x’ changed, then you would be able to be truly happy: your job, your house, your income, your kids’ behaviour, your partner, your weight? Isn’t it so much easier to blame external circumstances or others for your current disastisfaction? YES! My personal favourites are: ‘if…

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To party or not to party? An introvert’s dilemna…

To party or not to party? An introvert’s dilemna…

What does the thought of Xmas parties bring up in you? Excitement? Or trepidation? (Embarrassingly) for me, it’s usually the latter. Embarrassing because it’s not the done thing to admit to not want to be social. After all, as children we are taught that to be social is to be happy. And this message is confirmed by a society that actually criminalises the worst forms of ‘anti-social’ behaviour. And yet, if you are an introvert (who favours solitary over group activities as…

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What is top of your fear list?

What is top of your fear list?

Spiders perhaps? (And just in case you were wondering, this one was yellow, black and red, and was the size of my outstretched hand). What feeling does this picture bring up in you? Awe at the beauty of nature? Or FEAR?   I used to have a phobia against spiders. I remember vividly – still now – waking up screaming aged about 5 having dreamt that a huge one was ontop of my face. And yet, now, the phobia seems to…

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You have kids? Welcome to second-class citizenship!

You have kids? Welcome to second-class citizenship!

One of the major downsides of having kids, is that their needs take priority over yours. They can’t not attend school because I am feeling rough. Because having them around all day would make me feel even more rough. So I have to spend the teeny tiny amount of energy that I have left to cycle our wendy-house-on-wheels-that-cost-as-much-as-a-small-car (being slightly Eurotrash as well as slightly Eco, we ride a Danish-style cargo bike), in the howling wind and driving rain to both…

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Feel the fear and make it up!

Feel the fear and make it up!

Part of being a (recovering) perfectionist is a fear of getting things wrong. Big things (like diving head-first off the tallest board in the pool), but also seemingly little things (like eating alone in a restaurant or inventing a story on the spot).⠀ ⠀ Embarrassingly, this last example has paralysed me into inaction for the past 6 years. Ever since my eldest child was old enough to ask for a story that wasn’t in a book, that is. ⠀ ⠀…

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Stop, Ground, Breathe…

Stop, Ground, Breathe…

Today I woke up in a BAD mood. ⠀ It started when I realised that I still hadn’t got rid of my sore throat and flu-like symptoms which meant I’d have to forgo yet another day of my usual exercises (stationary mama = bad mood mama). As the morning progressed and I snapped more frequently and with increasing irritation at family members, I could feel that my hormones were on the rampage (day 21 = bullshit radar is on full…

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I’m off to Narnia. Coming?

I’m off to Narnia. Coming?

Yup. It’s been one of those days. ⠀ ⠀ Actually it hasn’t. It’s been great: I worked on my new life coaching website, I went to my first networking event (scary AF in theory, fun in practise) and I applied to be on a Mumsnet Facebook live panel (easy to do, will deal with the obvious fear fallout factor later, if selected). So I was feeling pretty good. Until I was required to morph into a mama. And the kids…

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Anyone for a forest bathe?

Anyone for a forest bathe?

Can you feel how the energy in a wood is unlike that of the urban ‘jungle’? Do you feel different when you are in nature: more calm and more embodied? Perhaps you’ve noticed that your breathing slows, your thoughts are less scattered? If so, you are not inventing things. Because it has been scientifically proven that being around ‘greenery’ (in any form) reduces the risk of depression, anxiety, high blood pressure, stress and many other scourges of our modern lives.  …

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Happiness is a choice…

Happiness is a choice…

Unlike kids, who seem to be able to return to a state of uncomplicated joy so easily – being pushed in a swing high and hard (see photo) is pretty much guaranteed to do the job –  adults can find it a little harder to get back to their inner happy place. There just seem to be so many more barriers in place. But because I’d been in a bit of a grump about various things on and off for…

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